I think that some people have this distorted view of love that was impressed upon them through the relationships they’ve witnessed (any couples who were a part of their lives growing up, friendships, even seeing how adults treat other people in general…love can be present or absent anywhere) as well as the relationships they’ve been taught to idealize (through movies, books, television, and other institutions).
A person is always in relation to something or someone else.
How we interact can be constructive or destructive to ourselves and to others.
The destructive person removes responsibility from their relationship.
They don’t feel responsible for their own actions, their own state of being, or how they affect the world around them.
This is the person who blames other people for their own suffering.
They externalize their destruction, rather than owning it and using it to build something better.
Construction comes from a place of love.
All people suffer. And as a result, all people have destructive thoughts and actions.
A person who owns their own destructive thoughts and actions is able to construct views and reality in a way that causes less suffering to the Self and to others.
I consider taking responsibility for Oneself as an act of compassion in itself.
It is a path to healing, a path more people need to take.
Love isn’t just some state of feeling.
Love is acting in One’s own best interest, and the interest of others.
It isn’t static in the sense that a person always feels loving. Imagine how exhausting that would be!!
It’s more like: love is always accessible, you just have to tap into it, put it into what you do or say, and there it is.